Kissing - Why, Different Kinds, & How to Kiss Better

Kissing - Why, Different Kinds, & How to Kiss Better

Kissing is often how we initially assess sexual chemistry with a new person. And kissing is how we can maintain sensuality and intimacy in a long-term relationship. But over the 16 years of my private coaching practice with individuals and couples, so many times I’ve heard from couples that they don’t kiss anymore. Why?

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Love Land - My Visit to an erotic sculpture park on Jeju Island in Korea

Love Land - My Visit to an erotic sculpture park on Jeju Island in Korea

Two weeks ago, I visited South Korea, and specifically Jeju Island. Jeju Island has been known over the years to Koreans as a “honeymoon island,” with its beaches, old volcanos, and resort areas. I was delighted to discover that there was also a place called Love Land, an erotic sculpture museum!

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The Contribution of Listening…It’s Not Doing “Nothing”

The Contribution of Listening…It’s Not Doing “Nothing”

“Hi, Jenn,” the front desk volunteer said as I answered the phone. “I wasn’t sure who to call…a young man just walked into The Center and he said he just tested positive for HIV. He wanted to talk to someone and I guided him into the library to wait. Could you come down and talk to him?” Shit….

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Pain During Sex - The Pain Perception Project For Women

Pain During Sex - The Pain Perception Project For Women

“It hurts when we have sex.” When a woman in my intimacy coaching private practice shares this with me, I know it can mean many things. A while ago in a nationally-representative sex research study, one-third of the women indicated that they had recently experienced pain in a sexual encounter…

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(Trying to) Feel Sexy Again at 48 - New Personal Podcast

(Trying to) Feel Sexy Again at 48 - New Personal Podcast

I am a sociologist and sex expert. And last August, as a single woman at age 48, I realized I had lost my mojo. So I challenged myself to try to find my sexiness again (or reinvent it?!). I recorded my thoughts and happenings over a 7-day time period…and turned it into this vulnerable, raw, and humorous story-telling podcast

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What do people most love about their sexual expression?

What do people most love about their sexual expression?

Last year I conducted an online “Sex & Vulnerability” survey, and 269 respondents anonymously shared their fears, insecurities, and shame around their bodies, sexual experiences, and emotions. But I also wanted to know what they celebrate around their sexuality. So the final question was: What do you appreciate or love about your sexuality, sexual functioning, or sexual expression? I found 6 major themes…

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