Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, sociologist and sexologist, writes her sex advice and gender commentary blog. The sex blog includes relationship advice, free sex education videos, sex tips, sex-positive mindfulness, and podcast interviews.
Although I don’t exactly think of myself as an “asshole expert,” I know a thing or two as a sex educator about anal play, especially for beginners! This was my first time being interviewed for Playboy Magazine, and I appreciated the opportunity to share my two cents on this taboo topic with writer Allie Volpe.
Read MoreWhat happens when you put two taboo topics together? You get a shamed topic like anal sex with hemorrhoids. I applauded writer Jessica Toscano at Self Magazine when she contacted me for an article she was researching on whether anal sex causes hemorrhoids and how to have safe and enjoyable anal play with those pesky little fellows.
Read MoreAre there safer sex messages in the hit trilogy "50 Shades of Grey"? With so much controversy around the books, let's look at a few messages around condoms and appreciation of women's bodies.
~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego, CA -- Sociologist, Sexologist, Sexuality Speaker
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From: http://www.cavemag.com/how-important-is-sex-to-a-relationship/Dear Dr. Jenn~
I think it’s hot to put a finger in a girl’s butt when we are having sex doggy style. But it doesn’t always work and sometimes she says it hurts. What can I do about this?
Thanks,
Wannabe Anal Master
Dear Anal Master,
Anal play has become more and more popular, so thanks for your great question. First, make sure your partner is interested in experimenting with anal play. If she’s not into it, she’s going to have a hell of a time relaxing, and will likely experience pain. I don’t advise trying to ‘sneak it in’ without explicitly asking permission.
If you’re both on the same page about this, then you’re embarking into a realm of heightened pleasure. A short anatomy lesson can be helpful here. To enter the anus, you have to pass through two sets of anal sphincter muscles. The first set are voluntary muscles, which is why relaxation on the woman’s part is important. She can put her attention on that external muscle area, and choose to relax those muscles. However, the second ring of muscles is a different story. These internal muscles are involuntary, which means you can’t think your way into releasing them. However, they do respond to gentle, direct pressure.
From your side, Anal Master, knowing how to navigate these muscle rings is important. Playing around the outside of the anus with a well-lubed finger can help the woman concentrate on that area and relax the first sphincter muscles. Then gently pressing on the anus for several seconds will release the second set and allow access to the inside. For some women who are tense and nervous about this, it may take more time.
Remember to start small, slow, with a lot of lubricant, particularly a thicker lube made specifically for anal play. With a little preparation, patience, and knowledge, you can definitely become the Anal Master.
Be well,
Dr. Jenn
~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego, CA -- Sex Therapist, Sociologist, Sexologist, Sexuality Speaker
Anal bleaching is dying the skin of the anus a lighter color, for aesthetic reasons. It started in the porn industry and has moved into the mainstream a bit. It's a very sensitive area of the body, so there are some risks. Need I say more?
This episode of "In the Den With Dr. Jenn", Spicy Suzy the Den Sex-pert stops by to discuss the male G-spot, why men may enjoy anal play, and why women might enjoy penetrating their partners.
GUEST
Spicy Suzy
The Den Sex-pert
SEXUAL FUN FACT
The Pope's current stance on condom use.
WHAT'S THAT WORD?
Eproctophilia
Dr. Jenn is a sociologist and relationship & sexuality speaker who challenges our cultural beliefs around sex, sexual consent, gender roles, and health intimacy, with a mindfulness and compassionate approach. Her site includes a sex blog, free sex education videos, sexuality speaking information, and mindfulness resources.
