The RIGHT Buttons to Push in Your Marriage

The RIGHT Buttons to Push in Your Marriage

I was just in Lyon, France, and one of Lyon’s points of pride is the vital role it played in the resistance movement against the Nazis in WWII. And one of the tools used by the resistance fighters were the Traboules—secret passageways through the winding streets, originally built for the silk workers in the 1500s...

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You Want to Work on Your Marriage but Your Spouse Doesn't

You Want to Work on Your Marriage but Your Spouse Doesn't

It’s not uncommon in long-term relationships for one person to want to work on their relationship, while the other one doesn’t. And at time stamps like the new year and anniversaries, this may feel particularly frustrating. As part of my ongoing “How to Have Hard Conversations” series, I answer a question along these lines.

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Permission to Embrace a New Facet of You

Permission to Embrace a New Facet of You

I have always loved Halloween and the excuse to dress up in a costume. This photo is from a party earlier this month with the theme of Glam Rock. This idea of dressing in costume and trying on a new character is related to my work in the intimacy and relationship field in multiple ways. The most obvious is role-playing…

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The Contribution of Listening…It’s Not Doing “Nothing”

The Contribution of Listening…It’s Not Doing “Nothing”

“Hi, Jenn,” the front desk volunteer said as I answered the phone. “I wasn’t sure who to call…a young man just walked into The Center and he said he just tested positive for HIV. He wanted to talk to someone and I guided him into the library to wait. Could you come down and talk to him?” Shit….

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3 Career Strengths That are Detrimental in Your Marriage

3 Career Strengths That are Detrimental in Your Marriage

You excel in your career because you are logical, focused, and decisive in your leadership. But these strengths in business can create friction and resentment at home. Reflecting on these strengths through the lens of relationship distress, though, can give you a new framework to empathize with your partner and avoid these common pitfalls.

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