What is “stealthing” and why is it now illegal in CA?

What is “stealthing” and why is it now illegal in CA?

Imagine this: You’re hooking up with a guy who you kind of like and are definitely attracted to. It seems like you’re headed towards sexual intercourse – which you want -- so you ask if he has a condom. He pulls one from his drawer, and although it’s dim in the room, you see him roll it down his penis….

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Did You Do Your Emotional Workout Today?

Did You Do Your Emotional Workout Today?

When I was recently working with a client couple I asked about their ongoing “homework” of sharing “daily gratitudes” with each other. I had suggested this as homework for the past eight months because it quickly became apparent that they were more connected and harmonious when they committed to this brief but intentional activity every day…

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How to "Surrender" in Intimacy - The Potential to Powerhouse Podcast

How to "Surrender" in Intimacy - The Potential to Powerhouse Podcast

Surrender is such a scary AND juicy word. Because it means being vulnerable and not being in control. But it also means allowing yourself the opportunity to truly release and connect with a sexual partner. This is one of the topics I discussed on episode #34 of the Potential to Powerhouse podcast.

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Insecurities that Married Women have with Sex & Intimacy

Insecurities that Married Women have with Sex & Intimacy

“Is there anything about sex or intimacy that you feel insecure about? This summer I’m conducting a Sex & Vulnerability online survey and at almost 200 respondents so far, the results are already incredibly interesting and thought-provoking. Normally I would wait until I’ve closed the window on receiving any new survey responses, but…

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Is There Any Place for Men’s Sexual Energy in the Workplace (Like Andrew Cuomo’s)?

Is There Any Place for Men’s Sexual Energy in the Workplace (Like Andrew Cuomo’s)?

Whoa, this just got uncomfortable, I thought to myself. I was standing and speaking to a group of powerful, primarily white, male business owners, and I had just suggested that they should be responsible and turn off their sexual energy in the workplace. And from their uncomfortable murmurs…

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A Sexual Email I Received...and What Coercion Looks Like

A Sexual Email I Received...and What Coercion Looks Like

Last week I received an email from someone I don’t know. It read: Hello, I have for a long long time loved to watch a Female Professional wear Closed Toe High Heel Pumps/Shoes while I Self Pleasure just looking at her but directly watching shoe play. I definitely prefer this over any other sex opportunity. I love asking to do this and would love to pay for a session…

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