Mindful Intimacy Series at Rancho La Puerta

Mindful Intimacy Series at Rancho La Puerta

I had the joy and pleasure of speaking for a week at Rancho La Puerta, a place that I describe as a healthy summer camp for adults who are into fitness, nutrition, relaxation, and connection. A week later I was interviewed by the Program Director at the Ranch, Barry Shingle, about the topics I spoke on at the Ranch the previous week…

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Stop Spewing Your Toxic Positivity

Stop Spewing Your Toxic Positivity

I started this blog almost a year ago, and on March 18, 2020, sent it to a friend for his feedback. I never posted it because I didn’t want to spew my anger online if I wasn’t sure it could be helpful in an already incredibly difficult time period. But yesterday I heard the term “toxic positivity” for the first time…

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Bullsh*t Vulnerability & Authenticity on Social Media & Instagram

Bullsh*t Vulnerability & Authenticity on Social Media & Instagram

Authenticity and vulnerability. We’ve learned that these are good things, yes? According to researcher and author Brene Brown, folks who cultivate these characteristics are able to live happier, more connected, and more satisfying lives. So why am I calling “bullshit” on vulnerability and authenticity right now?

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Quotes on Love - Thoughts, Feelings, & Meaning

Quotes on Love - Thoughts, Feelings, & Meaning

LOVE. It’s an overwhelming feeling. A distracting and consuming thought. An experience with a depth of meaning. And it’s a choice. Especially in long-term relationships, love in a choice and an action every day. Ideally, it’s many actions every day. But without intention and attention, love can whither…

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The Feeling of “Happy-Sad” for 2020: Trying to Let Go of the Year

The Feeling of “Happy-Sad” for 2020: Trying to Let Go of the Year

A while back I dated a man who was eager and dedicated to understanding his emotions. He had received little training in emotional intelligence when growing up. We joked that he knew four emotions: happy, sad, frustrated, and angry. When he was learning to identify and articulate his emotions…

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The Most Important Key to Giving the "Sex Talk"

The Most Important Key to Giving the "Sex Talk"

Think about a person in your life who you trust and who feels accessible to you. If you have a difficult, confusing, or uncomfortable topic to address, this is a person who you turn to, to discuss the topic. Think about these questions in relation to your interactions with that person: Are you scared to ask them difficult questions? Do they make you feel embarrassed or ashamed? Do they tease you?

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