Sexting for Married Couples

Sexting has gotten a bad rap. And it's often considered something only the young or newly dating do, so it's dismissed as trivial. But when I was recently interviewed for Shape Magazine online about sexting for married couples, I was thrilled to share some tips and tricks and give sexting some validation! Here are a couple of the points I offered:

"Men tend to enjoy more explicit sexual references and don't find it embarrassing, so the more you just decide to own your choice to be flirty and trust your husband's response, the more fun you both can have with it," says Jenn Gunsaullus, Ph.D., a sociologist and intimacy counselor in San Diego, CA. Plus, that unfamiliar feeling that may be making you hesitate is actually what makes it such great foreplay: The element of surprise and newness can be sexually exciting, she adds.

"The mind is our main sex organ, and choosing the right flirty words to seduce your partner can make them feel very desired," Gunsaullus explains.

Read the entire article 6 Tips for Sexting Up Your Marriage by Rachael Schultz, about the whys and hows of sexting your long term partner!

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sex Speaker, Sociologist

Mindful Sex, Meditative Masturbation, & Redefining Sexuality

I think sex is complicated. Actually, to clarify that, I think that sexuality is complicated. Sexuality encompasses the physical act of sex, as well as gender roles, values, beliefs, cultural learnings, orientation, attraction, desire, orgasm, power, exploitation, and pleasure, among other things. Like i said, it's complicated.

But the complication around sexuality, particularly female sexuality, is one of my favorite topics to discuss, particularly when I can delve into both theory and practice. I got to do just this in a recent interview with Cynthia Luois on her new podcast show Redefining Revolutions. Cynthia brought a fantastic vibe to the interview, from her intellectual questions, to her reflective feminism, and her vulnerable stories. These are the main topics we discuss in the podcast below:

1. Mindful sex and how to have it

2. Masturbation - the ecstasy and the shame and how to break that shame

3. Sex and sexuality as it relates to race, religion and gender

4. The empowerment and objectification of woman - well which is it, damn it!?

5. Some of Dr. Jenn's favorite myths and plays to have long lasting relationship sex

6. Sexual violence and knowing pleasure from a safe space again

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sexual Health Speaker, Sociologist

My Experiences with Online Dating

The HAPpY Hour San Diego Radio

An Alpine, CA, radio station invited me into their studio to discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly about online dating. I've been dabbling with it for the past year and a half, and shared some personal stories about what I like and don't like. But just when the interview was evolving and we were delving into why couples struggle with desire in relationships, the electricity went out in the building so my interview was over! Nonetheless, if you want to hear me banter with four men about online dating, check out my interview with Rich Singley below. 

My segment of the show begins at around the one hour and 14 minute mark.

The HAPpY Hour San Diego Radio Magazine 10.29.2105 #103 Jacob Underwood (OTown) Alpine Beer, Dr Jenn by Happy Hour San Diego on Mixcloud

 ~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sexual Health Educator, Sociologist

Can Fear Be Good for Our Sex Life?

We generally think that fear is a bad thing for our relationships and sex lives. But maybe not?

Shortly before Halloween, I spoke on San Diego Living about the potential relationship benefits of fear, and how you can consciously bring this into your relationship for fun all year long!

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus -- San Diego Sexologist, Sexual Health Speaker, Sociologist

The 3 R's for Maintaining Love

With the start of the school year, it's not a bad idea to use this time to take stock of your relationship, and make sure you're still on track and deeply in love. I discuss three R's of long-term long, including Reassess, Recognize, and Romance, with Marc Bailey on San Diego Living. What would your R's be? :)

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sexual Health Speaker, Sociologist

Sex & Gender in Films and Society

I recently joined my friends at Indie Apocalypse for their weekly radio podcast and we talked about...sex! (Big surprise, I know.) Our lively conversations touched on sex education in the United States, rape culture and rape in films, body image and the portrayal of women, shame and sexuality, the Ashley Madison scandal, Latino/a film-making, and how film makers can be more responsible in casting.

This is a great podcast to download for listening to while at work, exercising, or driving in your car!

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sexuality Speaker, Sociologist