What is the “Cheez-It” Threshold in Your Relationship?

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What is the “Cheez-It” Threshold in Your Relationship?

I’m generally a healthy eater. I’m a vegetarian, I ask for the side salad instead of fries, the fruit instead of the breakfast potatoes. But sometimes I don’t. I’ll order the fries and the potatoes and then dessert too, if I’m out celebrating something with a friend or family member (and I love finding reasons to celebrate). And sometimes I don’t realize that I’ve been using my “I deserve this, I’ve been working hard,” excuse…

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What if you "Compassion It" as often as you "Google It"?

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What if you "Compassion It" as often as you "Google It"?

I’m lucky enough to be friends and colleagues with Sara Schairer, the founder of a nonprofit called Compassion It. We live close enough to each other in the beach towns of San Diego that I can ride my bike to brunches, wine evenings, and brainstorming work meetings with her. She recently gave a TEDx Talk…

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5 Things Successful People Might Not Know About Their Sex Lives

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5 Things Successful People Might Not Know About Their Sex Lives

You’re competent and confident. People listen to you and respect you for your knowledge and experience. You’ve achieved a high level of success in your career. But none of this means that you excel in building and maintaining healthy relationships or that you’re a good lover. Here are five aspects of intimacy that may be missing from your toolbox…

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Components of Women's Empowerment - Speaking to College Students

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Components of Women's Empowerment - Speaking to College Students

The word “empowerment” has been used (and overused) for many years, particularly as related to women’s equality and voice in workplaces, schools, and personal relationships. Despite its sometimes trite use, when I’m speaking to groups of women about how to be more authentic and vulnerable, and how to responsibly speak up for themselves in new ways…

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“I feel safe when…” Cultivating Emotional & Physical Safety in Dating & Relationships

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“I feel safe when…” Cultivating Emotional & Physical Safety in Dating & Relationships

What do you need to feel emotionally and physically safe in a relationship or when dating? I recently answered this question…

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What do people most love about their sexual expression?

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What do people most love about their sexual expression?

Last year I conducted an online “Sex & Vulnerability” survey, and 269 respondents anonymously shared their fears, insecurities, and shame around their bodies, sexual experiences, and emotions. But I also wanted to know what they celebrate around their sexuality. So the final question was: What do you appreciate or love about your sexuality, sexual functioning, or sexual expression? I found 6 major themes…

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