Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, sociologist and sexologist, writes her sex advice and gender commentary blog. The sex blog includes relationship advice, free sex education videos, sex tips, sex-positive mindfulness, and podcast interviews.
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What are the top 5 places to have outdoor sex in San Diego?
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What's happening (regarding sex laws) in YOUR town?
1. Pretend you are a tourist in your own town. Even if you don't live in a tourist hot spot like San Diego, walking around your downtown area, licking an ice cream cone, and people watching can create a powerful bonding afternoon or evening. Add in a little role-playing by making up fake "tourist names."
2. Go to your local Farmer's Market and buy fresh vegetables and fruits. The veggies are nutritious and high in fiber - both important parts of keeping you working smoothly in the sexual realm. And the fruits are sensual and a tasty treat to eat alone or share with a sexy partner.
3. Listen to outdoor live music and make a picnic of the event. Entertain all 5 of your senses at once!
4. Watch a beautiful sunset with your lover and if you live by the Pacific ocean, even better! Use it as a time for calm reflection and deep appreciation.
5. View the night time sky on August 12 for the yearly Perseids Meteor Shower. Make time for some smooching between shooting stars! Visit this astronomy site for more information.
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I was sitting cross-legged on the scuffed up floor of the YMCA in La Jolla, draped in my black feather boa. The dance instructor acknowledged our courage for attending a class like this. She recognized that we might feel nervous or intimidated. I was just curious to see what this 2-hour burlesque class would be like. I don't have dance experience. But I do have nerve.
You may not be familiar with burlesque. While its origins are in the music and parody of vaudeville, it's mostly now considered a "classier" form of striptease. Having recently watched a burlesque show in it's more current form, I was struck by the differences between stripping and burlesque. It felt confident, teasing, playful, and connected. Very subtle movements with a feather fan or boa were very seductive. In general the women were rounder and softer than we would see with strippers. This was an aspect of public "sexual expression" I wanted to learn about first hand!
Thank goodness I'm basically comfortable with trying new things and not feeling embarrassed. Because despite the dance instructor's early acknowledgment that we may feel awkward or intimidated, there was little consideration of that later. The class was in the middle of the afternoon on a Sunday, with a large door open to passerby on the street. And some of the men who were attending the following salsa class were there early and watching. So much for my private exploration of sensual self-expression. As well, the majority of the class had extensive dance experience. Strike two in the comfort realm.
Nonetheless, after what felt like hours of sticking my butt out, flaunting my boa, and seductively shrugging my shoulders, I was actually enjoying the class and felt, dare I say, sexy. And confident. And enjoying in a different way how my body moved. It was tough to ooze sexiness and be fully present in my body when I was concentrating so hard on perfecting the new dance moves. So I had to let go of some of the idea of what it "should" look like and just flow with how my body moved. Although I was starting to feel sore muscles in unusual places, my body felt good and I was a bit giddy.
At the conclusion of 2 hours, ten of us danced in unison, the music carrying us forward, feather boas all over the floor. It felt so great to shimmy and shake with the short dance routine we had just learned that I barely cared that the class was now being videotaped. I'm assuming my "clandestine" foray into burlesque is somewhere in Facebook land :)
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DATE: Thursday, April 15, 2010
TIME: 6pm - 9pm
PLACE: Tango Wine Bar
2161 India Street, San Diego, CA 92101
PRICE: Free, wine available for purchase
N0 RSVP Necessary
~~Free Raffle~~Complimentary Chocolates~~DVDs for sale
To learn more about the DVD and topics, visit: Cooking Up Seduction
Sex Therapy & Relationship Counseling in San Diego
Dr. Jenn is a sociologist and relationship & sexuality speaker who challenges our cultural beliefs around sex, sexual consent, gender roles, and health intimacy, with a mindfulness and compassionate approach. Her site includes a sex blog, free sex education videos, sexuality speaking information, and mindfulness resources.
