So.. My first mental picture the morning after "the incident" was the vision of the man... I have barely hooped, and have noticed my tense feeling around any male putting their hands near their genitals. It freaked me out more than I wish. My energy barrier was nudged, and am sure I will feel less anxious soon. So to my fellow hoopers, let's hoop in packs, stay sexy and keep an eye out behind ya!

I spent a semester in London in college and was on The Tube one day at rush hr. I was standing up against the glass partition behind the seats near the doors. The train was packed and the guy an inch away from me started rubbing up against me. When I realized what he was doing, I said, "EXCUSE ME!?" several times and when I got no response I started trying to push him away and I remember my arm sinking into his stomach to no avail. I remember the anxiety and panic of feeling trapped and completely helpless and in the midst of a crowd (!) and no one was helping me (if anyone even realized...in our own little walkman worlds). As soon as the train stopped I got off and on a different car, sure he was following me, but he hadn't. I went home and told a male housemate about it and said, "where do men get off thinking they can do that shit to women....no pun intended!?" This incident, amongst other similar violations on the part of men and our society's attitude toward women, have left me, 20 years later, still struggling w/ issues of male privilege and dominance, etc. not to mention self esteem, body image and myself as a sexual being. I have no idea what motivates men to do these things, but I do think society generally just plays along, if you know what I mean. It's starting to change a bit, but we still have a long way to go. I appreciate what I've seen so far of your website, thanks! PS...I started hooping on my 40th b-day about 6 mos. ago! I love it and it DOES help w/ feeling sexier. I'll definitely stick to doing it in packs though.

I seriously wonder what would have happened if a woman would smile and wave if she caught a man jerking off in front of her.

Granted, I don't think I would be the one to complete the experiment, I would probably run away. While I think masturbation is great- the part that freaks me out, is that there has to be something weird in your head that bypasses all the "this is socially unacceptable" signals and you can actually do it.

Most guys I've talked to would feel so vunerable being naked in public, they couldn't get an erection..much less masturbate in front of a stranger...so the guys that do it, obviously have something going on, and that's alarming.