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Are toys taking over?
Thu, 01/03/2008 - 9:14am — Virgin
Your show seems to have a lot of talk about women and sex toys. You present the ideas of toys often as an addition to a relationship between a man and a woman, but are there couples out there using sex toys in their relationships and not having relationship problems because of it? I like to feel that I bring what is needed to the bedroom. To me, bringing a vibrator or dildo into a relationship is like yelling out to the world that the I cannot perform. There are times when my girlfriend just does not seem to enjoy sex. Is this my physical performance, possibly a mental or emotional block for her? Can you shed some light on this? I would like to improve my sex life and not feel like I can be replaced by a piece of silicon.
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Have you ever cheated on your partner?
Yes, and it was great and I'll do it again.
14%
Yes, and I felt terrible and told them.
0%
Yes, but it was minor and not that big of a deal.
14%
No, but I've considered it and might do it at some point.
29%
No, that's just irresponsible and disrespectful.
43%
Total votes: 7
How do you know everything that's needed in the bedroom?
Sweetie - you said it yourself - "I like to feel that I bring what is needed to the bedroom" - then you said "There are times when my girlfriend just does not seem to enjoy sex."
First - Drop the attitude that bringing toys into the bedroom means that you're being replaced. That's just fear and defensiveness, and isn't going to enhance and broaden any conversation around sexual pleasure.
Second - Look at the BIG picture with your girlfriend. Yes, physical pleasure is a good place to start, but what about everything that allows for a woman to be in a good mental/emotional space to relax and enjoy physical pleasure? Stress, help with housework, money, nurturing, body-image, good conversation -- all these are huge factors in how sexy and sexual a woman feels.
Third - What's really cool about bringing toys and erotic products into a relationship is that they give you an opportunity to explore each other in new ways, open new conversations, and bring a fresh approach with new sensuality.
Lose your ego in the bedroom - if you want everyone to be happy, don't make it all about you and your physical performance beliefs.
I am impressed, though, that if you bring toys in that they're made of silicone!
Spicy Suzy
Den Sex-pert
Are toys taking over?
I have raised a similiar question in conversations with Dr Jenn, so I am glad to see a similiar thread on this discussion board. I think that sex toys can be a great addition in a relationship and that it can lead to new areas of exploration and intimacy. However, I think we need to recognize the fact that toys which are mechanical and can have endless energy with the right batteries and merely satisfy our physical needs. We need to recognize that they may be able to do things that our partner cannot. At the same time, our partner is capable of providing an emotional connection, which toys cannot and it is that connection which takes sex from being a purely physical experience to being an emotional, spiritual experience.